Sharings

Yes to being dynamic and flexible to the needs of the situation. Yes to finding a way to move together. Yes to being playful and sharing this time. Yes to moving and relating. Yes to moving and connecting. Yes I choose this.

Sometimes it is a clear and firm NO.

No to sabotaging my needs to meet theirs. No, I love you but I also love myself. No to being a sacrificial lamb. I have needs and it’s my job to meet them and have healthy boundaries. No to modelling for them (through my actions) that we should always put other people’s needs first.

These types of situations are all about choice. Choosing your YES or your NO!

When we make conscious choices we empower ourselves and our loved ones. When we respond unconsciously or untruthfully we sabotage ourselves but also those in our lives.

So many times we say ‘yes’ but we mean ‘no’. So many times we don’t say anything at all. We imagine we are powerless, stuck, without choice, obligated. Or we make a choice but we get all passive aggressive about it (never helpful) cause it is not what we really want.

But we always have a choice. Choice is power, choice is conscious action, choice is a loving act of self respect and respect of the others involved.

I like to come back to choice, over and over again. To remind myself when I’m feeling trapped, obligated, a victim, used, or unseen, ‘what am I choosing here’. It has a beautiful way of bringing me back into perspective and back into awareness.

It is not always easy but it is helpful.

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Listen to the deeper voice. The one that’s kind, the often quieter one that stands you in your place and declares proudly that you are heartbreakingly fabulous the way you are.

The voice that speaks beyond your wounds, beyond your story and into the depths of you.

Listen to that voice.

And if that voice is hard to hear or so quiet you can only just hear it, then seek out the people who grow that voice inside you. The people, the tribe, the elders, the community who want to see the real you and safely call that part of you out.

We all need those people so let’s surround ourselves and call out the voice inside each other till it is so loud it fills the room.

Also let yourself have a good giggle at my face at the end of the video.

Do they bring you into deeper relationship with your kids, partner, friends, family & community? Or away from????

Do they bring you back in better relationship with yourself, your emotions, thoughts, physical self, bodily sensations, energetic self, your inner wounds, your resilience & your fragility. Having you enjoying your body, your felt experience of life, your connection within?

Or do they shut it down?

Do they give you a sense of freedom to be exactly who the fuck you are? To know you are worth it.

Or through them are you trying to be something other than you? Someone with better abs, a cooler party trick, #thighgap, someone who knows it all, a life winner, someone who can dominate others, someone who only feels #goodfeels, is insta worthy etc.

Just wondering ……

❤️

Amber

Why do I share this??

We all know that the images we see on social media are often the highlight reel of someone’s life!

Often they are carefully crafted representations of themselves that they hope will grant them likes, love, self worth, acceptance, business etc. This in of itself is very human (the need to be seen, acknowledged & feel connected are basic primal needs, if somewhat distorted via social media).

Despite our intellectual understanding of this I feel we often still fall into the trap of comparing ourselves with the unobtainable perfection of someone’s Instagram/Facebook account (I certainly do). Taking those images & using them to judge ourselves harshly, eroding our sense of self.

Perhaps it motivates us to constantly strive to be ‘better’ (#inspiration) to cultivate ourselves into something more, maybe something lovable & worthy!

Both these pursuits are exhausting & isolating (despite all the ‘likes’) & actually take us away from feeling in love with who we actually are & truly connecting at a human level. They take us away from a knowing that we are entirely lovable the way we are. That we can lean into our realness & that it is safe to be seen there.

When others share their realness with us it creates space to know you aren’t alone, you aren’t broken, you aren’t a failure or not enough. You are a human, it means being imperfect, screwing up, failing, falling, making many mistakes, feeling, it means it’s ok to be a mess sometimes, to feel lost, to get tired, to ask for help, to get it wrong.

Let’s unmask, be real, be seen & find real connection. We all deserve it.

❤️

Amber